All through out my younger years I had 2 or 3 really close friends and that was it. I didn't like the thought of having a huge group of friends -- mostly because most people annoyed me. But like I said.. I'm a 'few close friends' kind of girl, AKA: I've never had to really branch out and make friends, AKA: I suck at finding and keeping friends.

Yes I know, Mom, I will meet someone at church. But, what OTHER ways can you meet people?? I've been trying to search other DC bloggers but all I have found are young single fashion bloggers who probably don't want to spend more than 5 minutes with the girl and her baby.

Maybe I'm being too impatient? Can you not force the process of friendship? Do I just need to be in the right random place at the right random time? Maybe I just need to be out and about ALL the time. But where? Where do other people like me go? Also, I just assume everyone already has their friends... Why would they want a new girl in the mix.

Maybe I'm looking into this waaaay too much. But the truth is I want to find a really close friend out here (probably one with a baby) that I can do girly stuff with.

I am stressing myself out way too much over this. Hopefully this post will get it off my chest a bit. Helpful tips would be greatly appreciated. OR better yet if you know someone in my same shoes (like someone who lived no more than 15 min away) hollller at me.

10 comments:

girluntitled said...

it's definitely hard to make new friends, especially in an area you're not familiar with. what helped me out was getting really involved in church activities and going above and beyond when it came to stepping out of my comfort zone and approaching people. it took a few months, maybe more, but eventually i found a few close friends to stick with. hang in there!

Brittany said...

I am in your same position. My husband started medical school and is gone 12 hours a day so I am going crazy! I am the exact same way with only having a few friends and never really having to "go out to make friends" so it's frustrating. Everyone in my ward is in the mid-30s with 3-4 kids and I am the only one without a friend and I hate it. I'm glad you posted this because just last week I was taking it personal that I am such a loser blah blah. I hope things work out for you! It's nice to know I'm not the only one in search for friends!! :)

Alycia (Crowley Party) said...

Oh boy do I relate to this... where do I even begin?! Growing up I always had friends. It was super easy for me to make them too. I still have so many great friends, but they all live in San Diego while I am here in Provo. I don't know what it is, but since going to college I have had the hardest time making genuine friendships with people. I feel like I meet someone and hit it off and then it kind of just fizzles out. I think it is probably a combination of things. People in our stage of life are constantly moving and changing. I will meet someone at church and think I have something going and then they move! haha So frustrating.... I don't know... I just started to think that maybe people from Utah don't like me hahaha I mean, honestly, I wish I was commenting with suggestions, but I truly feel in the same boat as you. I have never had to try so hard to connect with people!

Katie said...

Wow! You wrote what is on my heart a lot. I feel that way a lot, especially since my husband and I moved to a new state with no family around, and we knew NO one. Your mom sounds like mine, but I don't know about you but even making friendships at church are hard for me at times too! Wishing you good luck! And prayers...:)
Enjoyed your sharing.

Tonja Keene said...

One of my best friends in the world (out of my 3, cause like you I don't have a huge group of friends) is moving to DC on Friday. We grew up in Washington state, both ended up in Provo, and now she's off to DC with her husband and her son who just turned 1. Look her up. She's amazing. :)

http://stewartsl.blogspot.com/

P.S. I have no idea how I found your blog but I love it and the girl that did your rose colored streak, Bethany, does my hair. Random.

katherine said...

i feel you girl. i'm the same way.

Jessie Ritchie said...

You know you always have me! You can call me anytime! Since I'm in nursing school I may not answer but I will always call you back!

Amy said...

Hi! I'm the same as you. I never had a big group of friends growing up. I was never in "that group" that we both know so well at Weber High. I still haven't made a close friend up here in Boise, but having a job has helped a TON. I've met people in my ward, but I get to know people best at my job. I know it may be different for you because you probably can't work... but I just wanted to let you know I feel you!! It's so super hard for me to branch out. Nate is so good at making friends and I am the opposite. So... just move to Boise and we can be friends:)

kara said...

You should look into story times. Check your local library or book store. A lot of times they do free programs for little kiddos and it's a great way to meet other moms. Love ya!

The Kunz Family said...

This makes me want to pack up and move out there ASAP! I am the SAME EXACT WAY!!.. and currently my only friends are my husband and mom because those "close" friends of mine are either not married, dont go to school, or dont have any kids so they are living the single carefree life! Girls bug me big time.. too much drama, and my husband prob wouldnt like me hanging out with guys all the time haha. Keep your head up, and I agree with Kara, go to the library for the story times. I have seen TONS of moms with little ones there and just try to strike up a convo. GOOD LUCK!

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